How do you put the romance back in your relationship? That is a common question in a lot of marriages. Its not unique to marriages where infidelity occurs. It’s easy to get totally comfortable with your spouse and begin to take him or her for granted. When that happens the romance slowly seeps from the relationship. If it goes unchecked, the romance will evaporate, and turn a once madly in love couple into roommates. Imagine how fast that process can be sped along if one you ends up cheating.
I am a hopeless romantic. I can’t help it, I have been this way my whole life. My husband says I am overly romantic to the point of being naive sometimes, and romance is work for him so we balance each other out quite nicely. It wasn’t always that way though. With the exception of a couple of small breaks my husband and I have been together for nearly 22 years, and we are both 36. In some ways we grew up together. We entered adulthood together, and we have weathered a lot of storms together. I know your spouse is supposed to be your better half, but my husband is my other half. I couldn’t imagine going through life without him anymore than I could imagine going through life without one of my arms.
We’ve had very romantic periods in our relationship, and we’ve had times where we were pretty much just together. I didn’t realize it then, but we were in the middle of our lowest just together phase when I cheated.