One of the first things that comes up in most people’s mind when they run into marriage problems is to go to marriage counseling. Monica and her husband tried it. My cousin Amie and her husband are currently in marriage counseling, and my husband wants us to go to marriage counseling. It seems like everyone I know has either tried, or thought about trying couples counseling at one time, or another. I can’t think of anything on this planet I would rather not do than go to marriage counseling. As dumb as this sentence may sound, I am committed to working on my marriage, I just don’t want marriage counseling to be a part of it.
In addition to my own personal reasons, every person, and/or, couple I know who has gone through marriage counseling has had negative things to say about it. I decided to ask Monica’s husband’s about his views on marriage counseling. I thought he would be a good choice because I know he generally doesn’t sugar coat anything. He also isn’t my biggest fan. It isn’t so much that he doesn’t like me, it’s more that he doesn’t care one way or the other. He treats me, and always has, like I am his wife’s cousin. Nothing more, nothing less, so I figured he would be straight with me.
His reply was about what I expected it to be, “I could see how counseling might benefit some couples, but I hated every minute of it. Your cousins actions nearly ended us. I had no interest in sitting and listening to some other person tell me I had some level of responsibility in my wife cheating on me. I resent it now even thinking about it.”